Nvc inquiry email

Here is an example of an NVC (Non-Violent Communication) inquiry email:

Subject: Seeking Understanding and Connection

Dear [Name],

I hope this email finds you well. I wanted to reach out to you today because I've been thinking a lot about our recent interactions, and I'm feeling a sense of curiosity and concern. I'm not sure if you're aware of how your words/actions have affected me, and I'd love to explore this further with you.

Specifically, I've noticed that [insert specific behavior or action that triggered your concern]. I understand that we all have our own ways of communicating and expressing ourselves, and I'm not looking to place blame or criticize. Instead, I'm seeking to understand your perspective and intentions behind your actions.

Could you help me understand what was driving your behavior in that moment? What were you hoping to achieve or express? I'm genuinely interested in hearing your thoughts and feelings, and I'm open to learning more about your perspective.

I want to acknowledge that our communication styles may differ, and that's okay. I'm willing to listen and adapt to find a way to connect and understand each other better. I believe that by doing so, we can build a stronger and more empathetic relationship.

If you're open to it, I'd love to schedule a call to discuss this further. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts and continuing our conversation.

Best regards,

[Your Name]

This email aims to:

  1. Express curiosity and concern in a non-accusatory way
  2. Seek understanding and clarification on the other person's perspective
  3. Focus on the specific behavior or action that triggered the concern, rather than making generalizations or attacks
  4. Emphasize the importance of empathy and understanding in building a stronger relationship
  5. Offer a solution (scheduling a call) to continue the conversation and find a way to connect and understand each other better.

Remember to keep the tone calm, respectful, and open-minded, and to avoid making assumptions or jumping to conclusions. The goal is to create a safe and supportive space for both parties to share their thoughts and feelings.